A Pattern of Prayer

Prayer is not a practice that comes naturally. It didn’t for Jesus’ disciples, so why should we expect it to be so for us?

I’ve only been married for a little over a year, but one thing I’ve learned is that communication is going to be a lifelong learning process. I wasn’t born an expert at it and neither was my wife. We are constantly learning more about how to express ourselves fully to one another. One helpful tool for developing relational intimacy in marriage is learning to ask good questions in all areas of life. We did some of this when we went through premarital counseling, and it’s helpful to come back to those questions to make sure we are continuing to get to know each other more and more all the time. These questions don’t dry up our relationship, but instead, they breathe life into often ignored or forgotten areas of our relationship.

The same holds true for our conversations with God i.e. prayer. Reminders and guides aren’t meant to make our prayers rote, but instead, they have the potential to expand our knowledge of and relationship with God. And this expansion won’t happen naturally. We must learn and cultivate it.

This is why Jesus’ disciples asked him to teach them to pray, and as a result, Jesus provided us with the ultimate pattern for prayer and growing our conversations with God:

Father, hallowed be your name. Your Kingdom come. Give us each day our daily bread, and forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone who is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation.

-Luke 11:2-4

Jesus isn’t simply giving us the exact words we should pray over and over again. Rather, Jesus is giving us a pattern. He is providing a guide to remind us to address every aspect of our relationship with God in prayer. He points to at least three different aspects of prayer in this passage:

  1. Adoration – “Father, hallowed be your name.” This phrase is an acknowledgement and praise of God’s holiness.
  2. Confession – “Forgive us our sins.” This phrase is a moment of authenticity before God and a turning toward Him.
  3. Reliance & Request – “Give us each day our daily bread… And lead us not into temptation.” These two phrases highlight our deep reliance upon God and the humble requests for physical and spiritual provision from him.

Don’t expect to grow in your relationship with God apart from developing a holistic rhythm of communication with God. Commit to involving at least these three aspects in your prayer on a daily basis.

Let’s devote ourselves to prayer by modeling our communication on Jesus’ guide for prayer.

Forming a Prayer Habit

During my small group this past week, we discussed the idea of forming habits. We reflected upon the general feeling that habits are so often viewed in a negative light. For many in the Church, we have reacted against legalism with a complete avoidance of habits, yet Scripture actually affirms some habits as good (see 1 Timothy 4:7-8; Hebrews 10:24). If any practice in Scripture is affirmed as worthy of developing a habit, it’s prayer. In fact, Paul so wants this habit to be built into our lives that he urges us to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17).

But how do we build such a constant habit of prayer? It seems like an impossible goal.

Think about this, though. A few days ago, my wife and I were on weekend trip to the Poconos, and we did a 25 mile bike ride, which got us thinking about Iron Man races. Basically, we talked about how impossible an Iron Man seems. Just imagine a 2.4 mile swim, 26.2 mile run, and 112 mile bike ride all in the same day! We couldn’t imagine how anyone could accomplish such a feat.

But people do it all the time.

How? Incremental training over a long period of time.

So how do we build toward praying constantly? We start small in two areas: focused planned prayer and triggered spontaneous prayer.

Focused planned prayer
Start by setting aside five minutes per day for prayer. While you can do this anywhere, I’d suggest finding a place in your home where you can be completely focused on talking to the Lord. Each week increase the amount of time you spend in prayer by 2-3 minutes. Don’t burn yourself out by starting out too long. Just like training for an Iron Man, you’ve got to build habits of prayer that increase over time.

Triggered spontaneous prayer
Set apart a couple of triggers in your mind to spark spontaneous prayer throughout your day. What are triggers? Specific places, times, events, people, etc. The key is to make your triggers something specific encountered on a daily basis. For instance, many people have a trigger already built in: meals. We sit down for a meal and pray before we eat. Other possibilities could be when you receive a text message, when you get on the subway or in your car, or when you do a specific task that is otherwise brainless. Brainstorm and identify a couple of triggers that will remind you to pray at various points throughout your day beyond your focused planned prayer time.

Commit to these two areas of prayer, and over time, a habit of prayer will be formed that will grow your relationship with the Lord and produce significant fruit in your life and others’.

Gospel-Centered Prayer

The focus of the next three weeks is prayer. To begin, we need to consider how our identity affects our prayer life.

How we perceive ourselves drastically affects our approach to God. Specifically, our identity is deeply intertwined with our approach to God in prayer. Jesus teaches just this truth in Luke 18:9-14.

He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

The significant difference between the pharisee and the tax collector is their understanding of their identities.

Identity 1: Jesus’ audience viewed their identity as the righteous ones. They were portrayed as the Pharisee in the parable, who labeled other men with identities of “extortioners, unjust, adulterers,” etc., and they took the identity of the holy ones who fast and tithe. They were righteous in their own eyes.

Result 1: Their prayers were arrogant, entitled, and ineffective.

Identity 2: The tax collector viewed his identity as a sinner in need of mercy and grace. He recognized his low and needy place before God.

Result 2: His prayer was humble and heard.

We are all sinners in need of grace. Recognizing and embracing our need before God is essential for effective prayer. When we believe we are entitled to something we are praying for, we are exalting ourselves as the Pharisee in the parable, and God promises to humble that kind of person. Answered prayer is meant to be received as a gift not as a wage. Just as with our salvation, God longs to pour out grace upon upon us, but we must recognize our need, not assume our rights. Our prayers will only be heard and answered when we approach God in humility.

Ultimately, this means our prayer must be Gospel-centered. The Gospel reminds us of our need, specifically, our identity as sinners in need of grace. The Gospel also reminds us of God’s holiness, his goodness, and his merciful love.

Meditating upon those identities through daily considering the Gospel will cultivate prayers that are humble and heard. May we center our prayer life upon the Gospel by recognizing our identity as needy sinners before a holy, loving God.

***Further food for thought: our gospel identity as sons and daughters of God leads us to pray with expectant faith to our loving, gift-giving Father. What other identities do we have as a result of the Gospel that affect our approach to God in prayer?

Apathetic Attendance or Passionate Participation?

Every Sunday dead people attend worship in churches all over our country. Many do this for years—even decades. Attendance at church is easy. Anyone can check that box off.

What’s not easy is passionately participating in Sunday worship.

As I discussed earlier this week, worship with the whole church is a gracious gift of God in our lives. He values it so much that Hebrews 10:24-25 urges us not to neglect meeting together and passionately participating in each other’s lives.

But so many things get in the way of that. Our plans for Saturday night keep us out too late to even be halfway awake for worship the next morning, or our Sunday afternoon plans have us distracted during and immediately after the service. Other times we find ourselves in a really tough season of life: those times when suffering and despair seem to consume us, and nothing about our spiritual lives is easy especially trying to worship. Finally, some weeks busyness consumes our personal time with the Lord, and we spend the first half of worship just trying to reengage spiritually.

How can we passionately participate with our church on a regular basis with so many potential obstacles?

Here’s my three suggestions:

1. Plan
Passionately prioritize worship with your church family, and then plan your weekend accordingly. Failing to plan our weekends so that we are rested and focused for worship on Sundays will hinder us from receiving the full richness of God’s gift for us. So I encourage you to spend time planning your Saturday nights and Sunday afternoons in such a way that you are rested and focused to not only receive the blessing of corporate worship, but also give your presence and service to others.

2. Pray
No matter what season of life you are in, Satan is seeking to steal, kill, and destroy. Apart from relying upon God to deliver us from the evil one, we will fall to his attacks. May we regularly pray that God would protect us from the evil one and prepare our hearts for passionate participation in worship. Also, let’s pray the same for those leading us each week.

3. Prime
Finally, prime the pump. In other words, read the passage of Scripture being preached before it’s preached. The more familiar we are with the text, the better prepared we will be to engage in active listening to the preacher and ultimately the Holy Spirit.

Let’s not simply attend worship, but may we passionately participate for the fame of Jesus and the good of the church.

Sacrificial Investment

Centuries ago, Christianity spread like wildfire through much of the known world in a relatively short amount of time. Significant physical and spiritual needs began to be met on an enormous scale. The Gospel and the fame of Jesus was made known to millions who had never heard of his name. By the grace of God, the church—though small and seemingly insignificant—made a huge impact. When did this revival occur? It actually came about in the earliest days of the church beginning in Acts 2:42-47. What characterized the church that God was blessing in such a huge way?

Sacrificial Investment

Beginning in Acts 2:42-47 and continuing throughout the book, we see the church invest sacrificially in three ways:

1. Cultivating Worship of God
2. Building up the Church
3. Reaching out to the World

God multiplied this investment numerous times over for his glory and the good of the world. The physical and spiritual needs of the church and the world at large were being met in ways previously unimaginable to the earliest disciples.

We live in a city that has overwhelming physical and spiritual needs, and God wants to use his church to meet those needs by multiplying their sacrificial investment.

At the Gallery Church, our leaders have spent significant time in self-examination to consider where God is calling us to sacrificially invest. So over the coming year, we are going to sacrificially invest through…

1. Passionate Participation
2. Devoted Prayer
3. Intentional Discipleship
4. Strategic Mission

… so that God would multiply it for the fame of Jesus and the good of our city. (Check out our fall goals here)

If you are part of Gallery, join us by investing in these ways. If not, consider how God is calling you and your church to sacrificially invest for the fame of Jesus.

Just imagine what God might do in our cities if we sacrificially invest as the church did in Acts.

The Community of Hope

One of the deepest longings of humanity is that of reconciled, authentic community. Yet, everywhere one turns deep-seated chasms separate people across national, racial, political, and various other divides. Can anything bridge the gaps and heal the wounds caused by these divides? Gazing upon our world provides little hope.

Yet, hope does exist in abundance, just not in the world around us. Instead, it lies in one who entered our world—Jesus. He alone has provided  hope in our broken, corrupt world. Scripture says that Jesus made peace by the blood of his cross. Through his work and the free gift he offers us, we can have reconciled community with God through faith in Jesus. This reconciliation, this salvation, also brings us into reconciled community with others who have faith in Him. When Jesus saves us, he doesn’t leave us as individual Christians, but he makes us part of a community: the church.

Though full of broken people in constant need of grace and forgiveness, the church is the one community with true hope of lasting reconciliation, peace, joy, and love across all cultural, racial, and political bounds. Jesus and his Gospel are the one hope we have for true community.

And it’s that community—the church—that I have grown to love deeply even in light of her warts and scars. This community is the people Jesus loved to the point of death millennia ago. And it’s this community that I am seeking to love in the same way. Following Christ’s example, I long to love and strengthen the church for the fame of Jesus. This blog is devoted to that purpose, and I’ll accomplish that in three ways:

1. Scripture Reflections – Providing meditations and direction for small group discussion
2. Equipping Resources – Providing a wide variety of helps for living this Christian life
3. Church Revitalization – Providing research, insights, and reflections upon an ever-growing passion of mine and an ongoing, yet oft neglected need in churches everywhere

*The first two will primarily be oriented toward my congregation, but I hope they will be a benefit to all who read.